Whenever you’re at the end of something difficult it can be easy to look back and think “damn that wasn’t all that bad”. Now that we are nearing the end of a 7 year medical residency and fellowship that is kind of how I feel.
Not to say residency wasn’t the most challenging time for us both; our marriage, finances, relationships with family and friends and so much more suffered almost to a point I thought they would be broken forever.
But I am living proof that it ends, life gets better and that it is worth it after all is said and done. I will keep updating this page with tips that helped me survive the medical school and residency period and I am so open to other ideas I can add too.
Remember temporary pain for long term gain 😉
Number 1: Find a hobby or activity that defines and occupies you. For me I put myself through grad school and threw myself into that for 2.5 years. Being around other people with common interests and that energy to work hard and get things done invigorated me and challenged me to succeed at something that I was good at.
Number 2: Rely on your fellow resident wives. Residency is like pledging a sorority that only a few people will get into. These girls are the only ones who really know what you are going through. Monthly or weekly vent sessions can be life changing. Just don’t get caught up in complaining all the time. It got really annoying to be to just constantly be tearing the guys down. I made sure to change the subject or avoid the negative ones-theyll drag you down too.
Number 3: Think about the future but also enjoy the moment. Residency graduation may seem light years away (but it will fly by I promise). Its easy to say oh in a year Ill be happy or the next rotation he has I’ll be happy. Find the happiness in the present and celebrate the small things. Take it one day at a time and find small goals and joy in each day.